I need to reload my php.ini and there’s nothing in the help dialog about restarting it.
Assuming you have the appropriate RC scripts in place,
/etc/init.d/php-fpm restart
or
restart php-fpm
or
service php-fpm restart
or
service php5-fpm restart
Or whatever the equivalent is on your system.
Edited to include suggestion from Matt Winckler.
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